Have you ever imagined a more confident, joyful, or successful version of yourself? Becoming your desired self means being aware and intentional cultivation of specific qualities, behaviors, and beliefs. I’m sharing a few thoughts that will give you mindset tips on becoming the person you desire to be.

I personally believe that your authentic self is your desired self. Whatever makes you happy is what makes you authentic. Sometimes, in our process of living, we become wrapped up in the stories we tell ourselves and often do the exact opposite of what makes us happy. I know that in the past, I would be miserable in order to please someone else. It took work to set my boundaries and become comfortable with accepting that it’s ok to seem selfish and focus on my own happiness, even if it disappointed someone else. If you feel like you aren’t being or living as your desired self, perhaps you need a mindset shift.

A mindset shift often occurs when you encounter a significant experience, gain new knowledge, or make a deliberate effort to change your perspective. It can involve moving from a fixed mindset (believing abilities just are what they are) to a growth mindset (believing abilities can be developed), or from a scarcity mindset (believing resources are limited) to an abundance mindset (believing there’s enough for everyone). These shifts can profoundly impact your motivation, resilience, and overall well-being.

Follow these steps to help guide you in becoming your desired self

1. Describe your desired self in detail because vague desires are not enough. Read that again. This will take some time and journaling. Then you will find it helpful to read and re-read what you wrote.
2. Deep Dive Questions for Self-Reflection:What qualities do you admire in others? How would your ideal self act in different situations?What are the core values of your desired self?What beliefs empower your desired self?
3. Creating a Vivid Picture: Visualization and journaling exercises to solidify the image.I can’t stress this enough. The journaling, in my experience, helps to solidify beliefs, behaviors and life changes that I’m focused on. Visualization helps my inner world be reflected in my outer world. Please understand, visualizing something one time CAN be effective, but usually it takes consistent visualization in order to change or see your desired outcome.
4. Setting Realistic Intentions (not just lofty goals): Focusing on embodying traits rather than just achieving outcomes. For example, it’s very hard to achieve earning an extra $10,000 per month for most people. It is, however, very achievable to start earning an extra $500 per month with an expectation of eventually achieving 10k. So, brainstorm on way to earn the lower amount that will have avenues for growth. This builds ingenuity skills and helps your subconscious find the frequency of earning money. Also, for most people, the larger amount is harder for them to believe but the smaller amount isn’t . What we believe we can achieve is exactly what will happen.

Embodying the Energy – Aligning Your Inner World

The Power of Feelings: How your emotional state influences your journey.

The way you feel is your vibrational set point. It’s your body’s response to a state of being to whatever you consistently give you attention to and focus on.

Cultivating Positive Emotions: Practical techniques like gratitude, mindfulness, and joy-inducing activities.

• Gratitude Journaling: Regularly write down things you are thankful for, no matter how big or small. This helps you focus on the positive aspects of your life. I usually write down at least 10 things every morning that I’m grateful for. Also, I send good energy to 3 people who bother me. Why? It helps be not be irritated. Just thought I would share that.
• Expressing Appreciation: Make it a habit to verbally thank people who have helped you or done something kind.
• Mental Appreciation: Take moments throughout the day to mentally acknowledge and appreciate the good things around you.

2. Engage in Mindfulness and Savoring:

• Mindfulness Meditation: Pay attention to the present moment without judgment. This can help you appreciate simple joys and detach from negative thought loops.
• Savoring: Consciously focus on and appreciate positive experiences as they happen. Extend the enjoyment by reminiscing about them later. Use all your senses to fully immerse yourself in the positive moment.

3. Perform Acts of Kindness:

• Helping Others: Engaging in altruistic actions, whether big or small, releases feel-good hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, boosting your own happiness and sense of purpose.
• Compassion: Practice being kind and understanding towards others.

4. Nurture Positive Relationships:

• Spend Time with Loved Ones: Connect with supportive and positive people who uplift you. Strong social ties are crucial for emotional well-being.
• Express Affection: Show love and warmth to those you care about.

5. Engage in Enjoyable Activities:

• Hobbies and Interests: Dedicate time to activities you find pleasurable and engaging. This can be anything from creative pursuits to sports.
• Fun and Play: Incorporate lighthearted activities and laughter into your routine.

6. Practice Self-Compassion:

• Kindness to Yourself: Treat yourself with the same understanding and care you would offer a friend, especially during difficult times.
• Acceptance: Acknowledge your imperfections and limitations without harsh judgment.

7. Manage Your Thoughts:

• Positive Self-Talk: Replace negative and self-critical thoughts with encouraging and optimistic ones.
• Reframing Negative Thoughts: Challenge negative interpretations of events and try to find a more positive or balanced perspective.

8. Take Care of Your Physical Health:

• Regular Exercise: Physical activity releases endorphins, which have mood-boosting effects and reduce stress.
• Healthy Diet: Nourishing your body with nutritious foods can positively impact your energy levels and emotional state.
• Sufficient Sleep: Getting enough rest is essential for emotional regulation and overall well-being.

9. Seek Out Awe and Inspiration:

• Connect with Nature: Spending time in natural environments can evoke feelings of awe and wonder, which are linked to increased positive emotions.
• Engage with Art and Beauty: Appreciate music, art, literature, and other forms of beauty that inspire and uplift you.

10. Set Positive Intentions:

• Start Your Day Positively: Begin your day with affirmations or by focusing on something you’re looking forward to.
• Focus on Solutions: When faced with challenges, direct your energy towards finding solutions rather than dwelling on the problem.

11. Celebrate Small Wins:

• Acknowledge and appreciate your accomplishments, no matter how minor they seem. This reinforces positive feelings and builds momentum.

I know if you focus on the above suggestions, and state consistent, you will see positive changes in your life. Thank you for being here. Keep shining!

You are loved!